"Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised."
-Proverbs 31:30 (New King James Version)
"I can't walk out of the house without makeup."
How many times have you heard someone say that or said it yourself?
The devil likes to feed us lies like, "you're not beautiful unless you cover up your zits, darken/lengthen your lashes, plump up/gloss your lips etc. etc. Why do women with straight hair always want curly hair and women with curly hair always want straight hair? I'll tell you why... because they've believed the Deceiver who whispered in their ear, "you need to change yourself to be beautiful."
Are you unable to look past the reflection in the mirror? There is more to your beauty than the exterior. There is a plethora of rich treasures inside, but all too often we are preoccupied with decorating the outside of the vessel. Beauty is fleeting. The flowers of the field wilt and vanish like smoke, just as young women grow wrinkles then die. The one thing that lasts forever is your soul. So make your soul beautiful!
"Guys love a girl who's confident in herself."
While this is true, charm is deceitful. Many guys are attracted to confident, flirtatious women; the ones who are easy to win... the ones who throw themselves at men. But the women men marry are the good girls... the ones who aren't easy to get. They know they are worth fighting for, worth working for, worth being romanced. The flirtatious girls make themselves out to be someone they aren't. There isn't any pleasure in knowing the man who is attracted to your charm is in love with nothing but a mirage. Be yourself. Then when a man notices how amazing you are, you'll know he loves you for you.
Queen Esther was the most beautiful young woman in the land, yet she still had to go through a whole year of beauty treatments before she was able to be seen by the King (Esther 2). Seven maids selected from the king's palace washed her for six months with oil of myrrh and the remaining six months involved perfumes and cosmetics. After the king saw her, he was pleased and she won his favor. He chose her over all the other eligible ladies in the land.
Remember the verse in 1 Peter 3:3-4:
"Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight."
Like Esther, we should be giving attention to our inner beauty... perfecting our hearts, living purely, making wise choices, and focusing our love on the Lord. After a time, when the Lord feels that we are ready, the King will send for us to meet our match.
But don't forget that you're always beautiful on the outside, too!!! No matter what the devil tells you, don't listen. God thinks you're absolutely gorgeous. Remember Psalm 45:11:
"The King is enthralled by your beauty; honor Him, for He is your Lord."
God gave us our beauty and our worth. It is deeply sad that a lot of young women are in a search to find validation of their beauty and value. They don't understand that God is the only One who gives us worth. We are made in His image, we reflect His character, we have a purpose, and we are beautiful inside and out because of HIM! We are precious to Him.
"A woman who fears the LORD is to be praised." Fear in Hebrew is the word yira which means "overwhelming awe that evokes dread, reverence, or respect." Ecclesiastes 12:13 reminds us that fearing God is the whole duty of man.
Micah 6:8 says, "He has showed you, O man, what is good. And what does the LORD require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God." What does it mean to walk with God? Walking with God is walking the path of wisdom, not folly. Walking on HIS path. Trusting that He knows the way, letting Him lead. Walking at HIS pace, not dashing ahead or lagging behind. Being in step with Him. Desire what God desires, avoid what He disapproves, hate what is evil, love what is good. Walk the path of righteousness. Be holy as He is holy. (Leviticus 19:2, Matthew 5:48)
The Proverbs 31 woman is, above everything else, WISE! Psalm 111:10 says, "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom."
You are beautiful. You are worthy. Fear the Lord, submit to His Word, and faithfully follow Him... then everything will be made clear.